Couples Relationship Counselling

My approach

Working relationally underpins my practice with individuals, so therefore it is only natural that this remains true and is reflective of how I work within my couples counselling. My focus is to work with the ‘relationship’, rather than individuals.

My training is Integrative in nature and as such enables me to draw from several prominent theory – based approaches and therefore tailor how I work to be able to meet the needs of each couple. This confidential and understanding service provides you and your partner with a safe space to explore the difficult issues within your relationship. I offer a fully inclusive service irrespective of age, race, gender or sexual orientation.

 

 

I can help you in a range of ways enabling you to:  

  • Learn communication skills with your partner effectively to create curiosity and support rather than experiencing conflict
  • Understand how to work towards solving conflict and valuing difference
  • Explore a difficult issue within a safe space
  • Recognise the strengths in your relationship
  • Improve your relationship through gaining insight and awareness into your particular difficulties
  • Realise what led you to choose your chosen partner
  • To see the problems within your relationship as an opportunity to gain deeper understanding

 

Common relationship issues I work with include:

  • Misunderstandings and tensions resulting from differences in viewpoints
  • Experiencing a range of feelings including; resentment, anger and anxiety
  • A lack of trust or loss of connection
  • Lack of intimacy and sexual discontent
  • Infidelity
  • Difficulties arising with other family members

 

Can Couples Counselling be helpful to you?

For couples in a committed relationship, couple counselling can help to keep you on track and deepen your understanding of each other and lead to a more contented lifestyle.

However, if you are considering separation or divorce and not completely sure if it’s the right path for you, you may want to consider all avenues before making a permanent decision with long term consequences.

I am able to help individuals and couples decide whether to try to work on their marriage, to move towards divorce, or take time out and decide later. The sessions are divided between spending time with each couple together and individual conversations with each spouse.

Please be assured, I  will respect the reasons for divorce while trying to open up the possibility of working on the marriage. In addition to emphasising the importance of each individual seeing his or her own contributions to the problems and the possible solutions.

The goal of Discernment Counselling is not to solve problems – but to see if they can potentially be solved. Some couples may decide to commit to couple therapy while others will not.

Discernment counselling is short term and involves a maximum of five counselling sessions, which normally last between 1.5 and 2 hours. However the first session normally requires 2 hours as it is then that I ask four core questions, which will promote consideration and reflection of your feelings within your current situation.

Discernment Counselling provides an opportunity to gain clarity and confidence about which direction to take that is based on a deeper understanding of the relationship and its problems.

Discernment counselling is considered successful when people have clarity and confidence in their decision.

Unlike traditional marriage counselling that assumes that both people are willing to work on the marriage, Discernment Counselling assumes that frequently one spouse is “leaning out” of the marriage and the other spouse is “leaning in.” Each perspective is honoured.

 

There are three possible paths to follow and outcomes from Discernment Counselling:

  • Continue as the relationship stands;
  • Move towards separation/divorce;
  • To commit to work on the relationship for 3 to 6 months in couples counselling, following which a decision can be made to continue or separate.

 

For couples interested in my confidential services…

Please contact me so that I am able to email you both a copy of my Terms and Conditions and Questionnaire. Once you and your partner have completed and returned these to me these will help me to understand a little more about your situation. I will then contact you to arrange an appointment to meet with you.